Saturday, March 7, 2009

Why Do Our Loved Ones Hurt Us The Most?

Since I was a little child I wondered the answer to this question.  I love my family but whenever I was hurt, it usually has something to do with them.  I later realized that it is because we make ourselves most vulnerable to our loved ones, maybe because, we don't expect them to hurt us.  And most of the time, they don't mean to hurt us (I hope at least) but it just happens.  
I get very upset when I am misunderstood, or when I let things slide, or when I don't want to ruin the moment, and yet the event repeats itself.  Interestingly, this is the topic of the day at least twice a month in my family.  The problem sometimes is too many people say I'm sorry just to quickly get off the loop.  However, it is more of a failure when you have that exact same argument, that same unresolved issue repeat itself.  Why? because you never understood why the other one was so angry or hurt, you never understood what the big deal was or you just didn't care to understand what the big deal was.
We all need a book to read on how to treat our loved ones because at some point that hurt will build up inside us and will enable us to stay far far away from those that continue to hurt us.  We have to learn how to talk to our loved ones especially as soon as we see that we have hurt them, no matter how right we felt we were and we must learn how to do it without criticism.  I say this because we will all die someday and at the end of this note could be my last breath but yet I am still hurt. 
I still I'm unsure of the answer to my question.  Please feel free to enlighten me if you do however I will stop here now and until next time.  This is a gloomy day in my sweet bitter life.

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