Monday, February 4, 2013

Keeping It All Together


I am open to ideas to keeping it all together.  Lately I feel like I am always trying to get it together.  I am expecting baby #2 in like a few months and my house does not even look like there is much anticipation.  Yep! there is still a baby who is pretty much attached to her crib, still wears diapers hence she still uses the diaper hamper ...Basically, our nursery is occupied by a baby who has the right to still be there lol. I remembered this time when I was pregnant with my baby girl I was doing laundry and putting them away in the nursery.

We have no idea if hubby will be here or not; since he received orders to be posted to the Islands and wee! I can't help thinking what if they don't find him anywhere close to home what will I do with two children all by myself.  I have been single lately with his multiple short sea trips for week long sometimes arghhhhh!!!!! (allow me to scream)The crazy thing is my daughter looks at me like mama has all the answers but little does she know I am screaming inside.

Oh yeah just like baby girl, we chose to make this baby's sex a surprise and way before mid second trimester the last pregnancy, I had landed a guy and girls name- don't even ask me what this baby's name will be because I sure enough don't know.  Sometimes my husband catches me reassuring him or her not to worry, that mama will have it all together by his/her arrival and if I don't we will wing it.
Yesterday, we had to install the baby's car seat and so Mmeso has to be faced forward (tear drop); (I highly recommend that you wait till 2 years old but in our case Mmeso will not be quite 2 before the little lad or lady shows up) she did ok during our ride this morning but we could tell she was a little dazed by why all of these little changes; little does she know that many more changes are about to take place. 

Work has been very stressful but I am doing my best to overcome the challenges as well as balance time with hubby and baby girl.  Something to look forward to, we plan to just halt our lives next week and disappear for a mini vacay/ honey moon and believe it or not it is going to happen.  We are both not sure if we will sleep throught the vacation or if we will drag ourselves out of bed and explore. 

I must confess I have all mixed feelings about the next few months; feelings of excitement mostly but anxiety since I have no control and mostly how Baby girl will turn out.  I have to admit I also feel a little guilt that I am not as prepared for our little surprise as I was with baby girl but all the same I am excited.  Baby girl- lately she gets so jealous when I hold or touch another baby, or pay attention to them or even hold on to her papa.  I am not sure if she will react this way whith the newborn but what I do know is that, she is aware that something is about to happen but isn't old enough to comprehend that a baby is coming and will change our lives forever.  Sometimes I do wonder out loud what de heck were we thinking!

11 comments:

Okeoghene said...

Awwww, God will give you grace and the strength for the coming months. I can totally relate with you cos I was in those shoes a couple of years back. I was in total denial of being pregnant because my baby was still a baby and I had a huge belly, proof that another one was on the way. It would be nice to spend any free time you have with your baby girl now and also try to explain to her that she is going to be a big sister soon. Don't worry, everything will work out fine.

Sweet Mama Africa said...

Take it easy my sister. We all usually don't have the answers must step by step. The best thing is that you don't stress at all.

Kiky said...

congrats dear.....just take it one step at a time. i know how difficult it can be without a househelp.

Myne Whitman said...

HUGS! I'm sure everything will work out for good. Just take it easy, day by day, and kep bonding with Mmeso and having her rub and talk to your tummy.

Stay strong, and enjoy the trip:)

Adaeze Ibechukwu said...

Its funny how parents now bother about what the older baby will think when the new one arrives. In the 80's when women had babies yearly sometimes just 9 months apart, it was a normal thing. Children adjust. Though there is the presence of jealousy or in lighter terms possessiveness, (besides who wasn't jealous seeing her mummy with another baby) I knew I was and I still hear stories of what I tried to do to my sis when she was still a babe. All the same, we are closer than ever right now and i'm super glad my parents had her a year and three months after my birth.Don't bother about baby girl, the jealousy wont hold out for too long, at the end of the day, she'll guard her little bro or sis with every fiber of her being when he/she arrives.

Amy said...

Take it one day at a time. That is all we can do. Baby girl and the little peanut in your belly may not get along well at first or they may get along perfectly at first but in the end they are bound to be the best of friends b/c throughout life our closet allies are our siblings!

Anonymous said...

Involve her in all activities related to preparing for the new baby if you can. Take her shopping let her pick out a present for her new bro or sis and present it when baby comes. When baby comes involve her in the feeding, diaper changing etc ask her opinion in small matters like do you think baby should wear this top or that top today make her feel involved the transition from single child to big sister will be much easier if she is involved with her sibling's coming

Rhapsody Phoenix said...

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My Life in Print said...

Congratulations on baby #2! Take it one day at a time, and I am sure everything will work out well.

Tola Famakinwa-Omoniyi said...

Wow! congrats on your baby 2! Like everyone said, just take it easy and try not to get too worked up about it. These things have a way of sorting themselves out, but of course you too have to work on it... But everyday is plus one!

Rhapsody Phoenix said...

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